Welcome.
If you are a woman whose male partner/ husband/ boyfriend is causing you harm, fear or distress, click on the option below that best matches your current situation, to find out what help is available for you.
Are you experiencing
domestic abuse now?
We are really sorry and concerned that this is happening to you. Domestic abuse is never acceptable, whatever the circumstances. You’re not alone and help is available for you.
If you are in danger now, call 999.
If your are not in imminent danger and you wish to discuss the current crisis or any aspect of your situation with a specialist, you can contact the national (UK):
Domestic Abuse Helpline on
0808 2000 247
at any time, on any day of the week.
You can also get help online:
CHAT: Chat Online Monday to Friday, 3pm to 10pm
BSL support: Support in British Sign Language Monday to Friday, 10am to 6pm
MESSAGE: Send a message
have you experienced domestic abuse for some time?
We are really sorry and concerned that this has been happening to you. Domestic abuse is never acceptable, whatever the circumstances. You’re not alone and help is available for you.
If your are not in imminent danger and you wish to discuss your situation with a specialist to find out about services available and your options, you can contact the national (UK):
Domestic Abuse Helpline on
0808 2000 247
at any time, on any day of the week.
You can also get help online:
CHAT: Chat Online Monday to Friday, 3pm to 10pm
BSL support: Support in British Sign Language Monday to Friday, 10am to 6pm
MESSAGE: Send a message
Do you want to find out about safe interventions with men who are causing harm through domestic abuse?
If you have not already received support from a specialist for your own needs, we recommend that you prioritise doing that by using the contact details and links on this page for the DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE and if you are in danger by calling 999.
If you are not in danger now, we can provide general information on what a safe intervention by a range of professionals (from Children Social Care, Criminal and Family Courts, Housing, Mental Health, Substance Misuse and other services) should include when they are engaging with men who are abusive/ violent towards their partner/ wife/ girlfriend and causing harm to any children in the household.
If your male partner is engaging with our service, we will work with the specialist domestic abuse services that support you to prioritise your safety. We will also give you access to the resources and guidance we are discussing with him, to help you make informed choices and decisions, as not all men who are causing harm will change.
If your male partner is already enrolled on a local programme for domestic abuse perpetrators, we can help you assess whether the approach they take, their goals, methods and the content of their sessions are all prioritising your safety and whether they meet the Home Office Standards for Domestic Abuse Perpetrator Interventions.
Many local perpetrator programmes claim they are focused on women’s safety but we have come across several who are in our view colluding with men’s excuses and justifications for domestic abuse. Many such programmes focus on abusive men’s ‘problems’, or on their ‘needs’ and ‘difficulties’ and fail to prioritise sufficiently the danger they pose to their partners (or ex-partners), on their victim-blaming and their sexist and in some cases, their woman-hating views.
Several of these programmes state that they aim to ‘reduce’ domestic abuse, which means they believe that some level of abuse/ violence towards women is an acceptable goal, instead of devising non-netotiable agreements with the men they work with to stop and desist from any future abuse.
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Please note that in this section, the primary focus during this phase of our service is information for women who are being harmed by adult men in heterosexual relationships . We recognise that domestic abuse can also happen in same sex and transgender relationships, in some heterosexual relationships where men are the sole victims, and in family relationships. We intend to provide additional resources and support on this website at a later date. In the meantime, we will post links to resources and available support provided by others that we are aware of.